All of us have experienced depression during one time or another. Sadness is quite normal when we are hurt or when our expectations are not met. The sadness we feel during those times drift away after some time and we get back to our lives. Nevertheless, persistent depression is precarious and should not be left untreated. Time and effort is needed to cure it. The most commonly found symptoms of depression are hatred towards self, fear of failure, anxiety, lack of interest in any kind of activities and insecurity. The negative feelings sometimes get so intense, the person starts harboring suicidal thoughts.
If someone you love is in depression, it is for the person’s family and friends to extend a helping hand to the person so that he can regain balance of life. The task can be quite a task as you will need extreme patience and extra effort to motivate the suffering person. However, there are ways to help your friend in need.
Lending a patient ear- Lending a patient ear is the best help you can do to your loved one during her or his time of difficulty. Try to find out the cause of his trouble and encourage him to pour out his thoughts to you. Assure him your help and understanding. Very often, the person might keep him contained without sharing the cause of his trouble. A good friend should make him open up his mind.
Instilling positive feelings- Avoid using a negative tone when you talk to the person in depression, and avoid criticisms. It will only add to his or her misery. Talk to him about the importance of leading a positive life and instill optimistic views in the person’s mind. Raise his confidence level by ensuring that every problem has a solution and difficult times are only temporary. Counsel him not to worry if things do not work out the way he expected, as sometimes better prospective may be awaiting us.
Be there for your loved one or friend- Ensure that your friend does not stay back alone and brood in corridors. Take him with you for movies, shopping, or for walks. Get him to speak, share, laugh and socialize. Getting him to join in an activity club will help him keep engaged. Though he will be reluctant to do anything, make him take part in things he once loved. Compliments help to gain back confidence.
Protect him from using harmful things- Individuals in depression have a tendency to use drugs and other harmful products as it gives them temporary relief. Use of too much anti-depressant is also observed in mentally disturbed people. Ensure your friend does not fall victim to such unhealthy habits.
Get help- Clinical depression or severe depression can be cured only through medical procedures like cognitive behavioral therapy, talk therapy, psychotherapy and expert counseling. Take him to a doctor at the earliest.
Depression needs some time to get cured. Encouraging the depressed person to stay active will speed the process of recovery.